Girls

As a guy I've had lots of laughs among the other fella's when we discuss about girls. Their sometimes lacking of the concept of logic and common sense in some of their arguments, or the fact she is suppose to suck you dry or on matters along that line, fills us with tonnes of laughter. Then of course there is the matter on female preference; the things and stuff that girls like, which we as guys can only say "ewww" or "Oh my God" to. And of course, the talk we guys have when we discuss on the matters of the female body.

The hot sexy female body. Sweet.

But that's not the exact matter on which I find myself wondering on. There are others of course. Let's take the fact of our (guys) leanings towards logic and their (girls) sometimes preference on excluding logic all together. Of course, I said to myself, logic is everything. The rules of Physics, history, science, those are what governs the going arounds of the world. Animals, without even knowing science, conform to what logic dictates. But I've been in crisis, in dilemma and in depression for a long while now, and as such I question logic itself. To be truthful, I question as to why we conform so much onto doctrines which we ourselves had no say in its creation. Take for example simple little (cliche'd) advices we get. Heartbroken? Relax, move on. Have a problem? Think calmly, and try to see 'outside the box'. But the point of the matter is when I get.. say.. heartbroken, I WANT to dwell on it, and I want to think about it and yes, I WANT to feel miserable. If it were up to me even, I'd want everyone, especially the person in question to be miserable too. The point is we guys have ego, and also we think of our self-image as well, though not in the same perspective as girls. And for all that we think it's cool to deny emotions. To not acknowledge our inherent emotional weakness. I mean after all, we are guys. We're suppose to be 'the stronger sex', hmm? Well, I can't say being in tune with your emotions is cool, I mean who am I to dictate what is cool? (I still am, for the record, conforming to the old rules and thus... play a game of pretense.. that I am cold and evil, with some leanings to male chauvinism)

I, for one think that we all have images we want to live up to. A code of coolness we adhere to, if you will. Guys have a rather 'explosive' projection of their 'coolness' in that we love things and belonings that are extravagant, like cars, stereos, big houses, powerful computers. Girls on the other have a implosive outlook on whats great, so in most stuffs they like usually enhance themselves, as in projecting inwards, in opposition to guys with their outwardly reflection on self. Oh well, I don't feel like making sense here.

The butt is the sexiest part of a girls body. A girl in tight pants or skirts, with their behinds sort of... extruding... is the sexiest thing ever. I read that somewhere and I have to agree, after all the butt does give more definition to the female form than her chest assets, so to speak. And I think a beautiful female form is all about curves. Not to say that large breasts are no turn on. They are, because we need balance after all. Long necked dinosaurs have long tails to balance their bodies and so... women, I suppose, need adequate breasts to balance and nice firm... oh you get the point.

Well, hopefully that adds some spice.

But really, guys love girls with great bodies. Add that with a pretty face, we're already in heaven. So the question is that if we so focus on looks, wouldn't that mean personality is not important to us? My view is this. Our personality is our own. And for that part, it is human. Our looks depend of course, on our genes. So if we have a flat un-sexy nose, or or lips that are too thick, thats not our choice. So in that, it is in the domain of God, and not us. Best guess based on that opinion which is more customizable. Of course, it's a good personality that makes us stay with any girl. We don't like them overly whiny, or dull.. or too outgoing in that she will give no second thought to shagging some guy at the bar. But the point, is that we can't find that girl with the perfect personality we like. But we can find some with the proper base personality... which we can influence a little on all te other minor details. And for the looks, let's just say that I heard some women resent their guys, because he wasn't their first choice, albeit he isn't much of a looker, so go figure on questioning should looks be of any concern at all.

I like a girl with dark hair. And I like them fair. Blondes are... well, okay...but I prefer dark hair, because it adds contrast. Not to say blondes are dull, I mean blondes, with proper attire can look angelic, being all fair colored and all. A strong sense of light color can be as good as a contrast (and I love chicks in white, not just because of the whole 'get-her-wet-when-she-wears-white thing). And in that, there is another point in itself. We need... well, actually I want, contrast. A girl who is shy is okay, but she is superb if even though shy, she is not hesitant to voice out her mind. A girl who takes care of her looks is fine, but she is superb if she cares for others more than herself. It's not impossible, I think it is more than plausible. The problem is that as humans, both guys and girls always prefer going to one end of the extreme rather than the meticulous balancing of stuff. Thus the prospect of me finding a girl who is outgoing enough not to be dull or not indulge in sweet little things (hugs and kisses and whatever stuff, generally speakig) but shy, or conservative enough not to be doing things like drugs, alcholism, smoke and the grinding any guy at dance clubs, is rather a tricky prospect no? And let's face it, the whole concept seems to be pointing towards a selfish outlook on it, albeit being that the girl would be indulging us, and only us in stuffs we like, but then love is selfish, no?

Oh but women will be women. They will bitch. They will shop. They will be consious about being pretty. And they will want some form of commitment from you. But truthfully, we guys too have at least some of those tendency. Women, can't live with em, can't live without em. Or so a saying went. Truth is, we can't live without them but we can live with them, if we are only willing to try and look beyond the usual conformity. Women are, to me at least, more of a gift to mankind than mankind are a gift to them. Truly, I do love women.

But if there is one thing that experience has done to me, it is this: I am always suspicious of girls who are nice to me. Let's face it, unlike guys who prefer their feelings be known, girls are and most usually will prefer to be more... sneaky. A girl can smile at you but inside her thoughts can range from, "you look cute" to "if only I can run you over with a truck" or even plain "f*** off loser". You never know really. I love them, true but I am suspicious of their motives. It's a weird paradox, but one that I think to be marginally understandable. A lot of the girls I know, when they have no need of me or when they seek positive things like fun and relaxation, my name is excluded from the list. Indeed they couldn't even bother to answer to me fully and honestly to simple questions like "What's been up?" Oh but the moment they have use of me, of my talents, they become almost as playboy playmates would be to Hugh Hefner, in a manner of speaking. After the task is done though, down the rubbish bin I go. Generally speaking of course (which is meant to say that there are those who aren't like that).

But do not say that I am just simply bitter. I admit though I am bitter about being heartbroken and all, but that in itself merits not the entire justification of what I am today. I am a student of war, tactics and strategy as much as I am to history, arts and love. And if you were severely attacked by an enemy, you'd do well to be very careful the next time you might encounter such foe.

But at times I wonder now, who am I to question on matters of the opposite gender and that of love? I am not married nor even attached to anyone at the moment. I've had several crushes for sure, but only two would merit what may be called as a big huge crush. Well, actually out of the two, one of which I admit I have for that moment fallen totally in love for her, but then by the gauge of that... I feel my personal experience is somewhat limited. Indeed, most of what I am can be associated with the word 'limited'. I think even in the blogs and journals of others, there is hardly any mention of me at all, if not just a few.

Anyways, not veering off to far, here's another annoying fact about most girls. They want to be thin. No not just thin. I mean really skinny, almost anorexic thin. What doubles the annoyance is that when we (guys) say that they (girls) look great, they dismiss it almost just like that. Some say that we lie, while others would say we 'don't understand'. Here's what I think. Skinny, as in like Ally McBeal skinny is so not nice. Accept that as a fact. And further more, a beautiful, gorgeous woman should be, as one said, all curves. That said, she should have some meat on her. And then comes the question of the belly. Some guys, and quite a number of girls, would love those flat, and at some cases, muscled abs. I don't. As I said, ALL CURVES. Where is the curve in flatness? And no, I don't mean pregnant belly type, but it should have a slight curve or roundedness to her abs a bit. A 'six pack', as some people say, is a masculine feature, and as much as feminine GUYS are a scary thing, so are those very masculine girls.

Anyhow, the last point is this. I fancy myself, if not totally then at least a part of me, a gentleman. I believe in good manners, and despite how some people champion the freedom of speech, all out honesty and not hiding things inside, there is absolutely no excuse for being rude. I mean that, and I care not even the fact that I have a few friends and family who tended to be direct, blunt and thus rather rude. There is no excuse not to be polite. And for that, I fancy a lady. In conjuction with an earlier point, one which states the balance between liberal and conservativeness, shy and outgoing, it is clear that for my point of view, my perfect girl would have to be a lady, as in she knows when not to be too liberal or social, and when she should stand up for herself and let her be seen. Above all else, the proper manners. And manners do not simply reflect the outlook of a person, as in she has to wear all covered, non body hugging clothes and all. No. I love sexy women too, but you can dress rather contemporarily but still be respectful. As always balance is key.